The day I said “YES!”

Yesterday marked three years since Seth asked me to become his wife. And boy was that the BEST DAY! I realized that I haven’t shared our proposal story on here so I figured in celebration of three years since saying yes I would share it. ๐Ÿ™‚

Seth and I had talked about marriage and we both knew that this was it. I knew without a shadow of a doubt that there was no once else I wanted to spend my life loving and being loved by. I had shown Seth some rings, okay make that..lots of rings..haha! I sent him so many different styles because I honestly couldn’t make up my mind. I had requested a few things for the day he would propose….

  1. Don’t propose to me when my nails weren’t freshly done. I didn’t want pictures of my ring with nails that were chipping. Sounds silly but when you really think about it you agree with me ๐Ÿ˜‰
  2. Don’t propose to me when I look like well…a mess. haha! I wanted to make sure I was looking put I wanted pictures that I would actually want to show people and post!
  3. Have someone there who could take pictures of it happening or video it. I knew I would be a blubbering mess so I wanted to be able to go back and re-live the moment.
  4. I wanted myย best friends who lived in LA and Texas to be able to be there for it, as well as Seth’s parents.

Poor Seth. I came with my list..but hey, he was winning anyways that day by getting a YES from me. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Okay so on to our story…

It was Friday, September 13th, and I had just drove back to Sacramento from being in LA on a work trip. That week I was down there Seth was acting strange and I did keep wondering if he was up to something…aka..a proposal. He just seemed different and I kept thinking maybe it was because he was distracted with planning. I manage nail salons so I made sure to have my nails done just in case I came home to Seth on one knee. I got home that evening and was exhausted from a busy week and traveling. I was ready to climb into bed and relax. Seth was working that night so I knew I wouldn’t be seeing him until the next day.

As I opened my bedroom door I found my bedroom covered in rose petals with a card on my bed. I gasped and realized…oh my gosh this is it! But oh no! I have no makeup on and look like a hot mess! I knew Seth wouldn’t care..but I did! Pictures! I proceeded to walk into my bathroom after reading a card about how much he loved me to find my bathroom covered in rose petals as well. My heart was pounding. I waited a few minutes for Seth to walk through the door. But no Seth. I then realized, he isn’t proposing to me. He would’ve been here by now. But I knew we were getting closer to being engaged. Seth had promised me at the beginning of the year that we would be engaged by the end of the year. There was only three months left to the year so I knew that wait was coming to a close.

I sat on the floor in my room and took out some paper to write Seth a love note that I could give him after he proposed. He was giving me a ring, I figured the least I could do was give him a letter with some of the secrets that I hadn’t told him I held in my heart for my future husband. There is beauty in waiting until the right time and not giving away every piece of your heart too soon. Timing is everything. I knew that once he had asked for my forever then I could tell him the secrets I had saved for my future husband. As I wrote to him tears poured from my eyes with overwhelming love for him and excitement to become his wife. I tucked the letter into my wallet so I would have it with me when he did propose. As I did so I heard a knock on the door…my heart stopped again. Seth is supposed to be at work..why is he at my door? He is about to propose! As I opened the door I held my breathe fully expecting to see him on his knee…but he wasn’t. He was standing there in his work shirt because he got off his shift early he said..He told me he was exhausted but wanted to come by to see me..and obviously see how I liked the half of a rose bush he spread through my room! ๐Ÿ˜‰

We made plans to hang out Saturday morning but he was very vague about what. He just kept telling me how he wanted to be able to sleep in. He didn’t want to have to get up early. Which is so NOT like Seth! He always will make plans and never turn down doing something because he wants to sleep in. So I did think it was a bit strange. The next morning came and I texted him good morning like we always did..but no reply. I waited a bit and then tried again…nothing. I called answer. So I went to the Farmer’s Market with my Mom and told her that Seth was acting strange. Telling me he wanted to sleep in and didn’t make any plans with me for today. My wheels were turning. Maybe he is being vague because he is proposing to me today! So much excitement washed over me with that thought.

As I was leaving the Farmer’s Market I finally got a call from Seth saying he slept in. He said he would come over in a little bit and we would figure out what we wanted to do. So maybe he wasn’t proposing today..he doesn’t seem to have much of a plan, I thought to myself.

A little while later Seth showed up at my house and said let’s go for a drive, he just wanted to chill out. We got in the car and ended up on a windy back road that I had never been on. I could tell that Seth knew were he was going even though he was trying to act like he didn’t. I decided to just sit back and enjoy the ride to my proposal. John Mayer was playing through the stereo, windows were down, and Seth was holding my hand. It was perfect.

After about 45mins of driving I saw signs for wineries. Again, he acted like he didn’t know they were there..but I was on to him. My parents always called me a detective and I warned him of this. I told him I can never be surprised, I always figure things out. So I knew, I knew this was happening.

As we got to the first vineyard I looked around the outside property for the picnic blanket and basket that would be setup for us with a ring waiting for me. But it was no where to be found. We did some wine tasting and then Seth said let’s go. We got back in the car and he pulled into another winery. And this winery I recognized right away! It was a winery that I had showed him to possibly get married at! I couldn’t believe he remembered and was taking me there to propose! We got out of the car and walked around the property..and left! We didn’t even wine taste. Seth said he had just wanted to check it out.

Okay, ย so to be honest by this point my little heart was hurting. I realized that he didn’t take me out there to propose. We were now having to head back because we had plans to go see my friend, Anjelah Johnson, perform her comedy show in Sacramento. We had dinner plans just him and I prior and then we were meeting our friends and my parents for the show. We started driving those back roads towards home and I began crying. Seth pulled over to ask me what was wrong and I told him I thought he was going to propose. He reassured me that he will by the end of the year but just hadn’t been able to get the ring yet. I knew I was being silly, but I had really gotten my hopes up and was so disappointed when it didn’t happen.

We got home and quickly got ready for dinner and headed to downtown Sacramento. I had made our dinner reservations so I knew where we were going. As we finished dinner I told Seth I wanted to go to the car to freshen up really quick before we walked over to the show. Seth said he wanted to take a walk around the Capital. We began walking, and I began complaining. My feet hurt in the heels I was wearing and it was hot out. I told him I just wanted to head to the show. My parents texted me saying they were there and got our seats so Seth felt we had time to still walk. I was annoyed. I didn’t want to walk anymore. He then pointed to the rose gardens that were a block away and said let’s walk over there. Again, I was annoyed. He basically dragged me down there and then pulled me into the rose gardens where he kept trying to kiss me but I was pushing him away because there were kids and people all around us. I was laughing as he was pulling me through the aisles of rose bushes and as we turned the corner I saw a small table setup with the same color rose petals that were all over my room the night before. And before I could even grasp it all, Seth was on his knee in front of me where he quickly blurted out the words “will you marry me?” I didn’t even notice the ring in his hand, all time stopped and I started laughing so hard…I couldn’t believe I was laughing. But I think I went into shock mode or something. As I said yes my laughing turned into crying..but not just crying..the ugly crying where you are gasping for air. ย All the while, Seth was whispering in my ear how he wanted to spend his life with me and how I was the princess he had been praying for and how he would now make me his queen. I asked him later why he just blurted out, “will you marry me?” so quickly and with no flowery words. He said it was because he knew he would have to act quick before I started freaking out hahaha.

I stood in Seth’s arms in shock and awe at what had just happened and at my ring that I now realized was on my finger! Seth had personally designed my ring (which I had no clue until later) and been emailing back and forth his sketches with a designer in LA. And it was GORGEOUS! I then remembered the letter in my wallet that I had just written him the night before. I was so excited to be able to give him something along with my “yes”.

I suddenly realized that two of our friends from a few hours away had been hiding out taking pictures of everything. They actually had been taking pictures of us since dinner and had been following us walking all through the Capital and Rose Gardens. (pictures will be below). Seth then informed me that he had another surprise for me and that we wouldn’t be going to Anjelah’s show. We got in the car and headed to a place I had never been before. As we pulled in to this driveway I was so confused. We walked down a dark path that led to a beautiful backyard and standing in front of me was all of my family, Seth’s parents, sister, grandma and Aunt who had all flown in from NY, my best friends from LA and my best friend from Texas who I hadn’t seen in a few years. I lost it to say the least! I couldn’t believe they were all standing in front of me and came to celebrate us!! Not to mention that Seth pulled all of this off without me figuring out a thing!! We spent the evening under the stars with our friends and family and I felt like my heart was dancing with the stars. Oh but thats not all! The next morning Seth had arranged for all of us to come back to this house to have a catered brunch by the pool! Yes I know, he went over the top! Way over the top!

So there you have it..September 14th. The day Seth gave me the biggest surprise of my life (well that is, until I found out I was pregnant with Sienna haha!), the day I said YES to a life of always saying YES to loving Seth.

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  1. Marion Yano
    September 16, 2016 / 11:10 am

    This is soo beautiful!
    My future husband better be reading this haha

    • carlymay
      September 16, 2016 / 6:28 pm

      hahahaha ๐Ÿ˜‰

  2. September 19, 2016 / 5:48 pm

    Wow Carly, what a special post! You truly found a special guy! You are blessed!


    Monica from Brazil ๐Ÿ™‚

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